Playing Under the Influence

I have an explicit disregard for my own safety when it comes to playing and scening. I like pain, and I like being taken to the edge of my sanity, and thrown over. It's a thrill for me, so I have adopted the mantra "I don't really care what happens to my body." That being said, I still follow some very BASIC safety precautions as well as the people I have played with.



I have scened with a few people over the last couple years, albeit not as many as I'd like, since I like to broaden my horizons and experience. All different players, liking different things. Impact, Rope, Needles, Sensory Deprivation, etc. All of them have their dangerous aspects, especially when I'm saying I don't care what happens to me during these scenes.

Here's the thing. Though I may not care what happens to me (I really don't) I never play with someone who feels the same way. Whoever I play with, or do a scene with has a level of trust from me, that not a lot of people get. Not a lot of people get to put my body and mind into a vulnerable state. I will not play with someone who through their actions, threaten my well being.

I've been thinking a lot over what I've been seeing posted on fetlife. Pictures of private play that have been going on. It all looks like fun as far as I can tell, then I was informed it wasn't all above board.

There is no excuse for playing unsafely. There is no excuse for playing under the influence. When people are admitting to me that they're playing drunk, wasted, high, stoned, etc. It really gets on my last nerve. It is BASIC COMMON SENSE. There is risk, and then there is unnecessary risk. And playing under the influence is just plain moronic.

I'll admit that I've been on the receiving end of many a hittin' thing while the person swinging the implements has had a few drinks. But NEVER would I play if the person is even slightly incoherent. Not going to happen. And I don't think I'd choose to play with someone who would think that was okay.

Just recently I had a friend mention to me that he doesn't understand drinking at a play party. I had to explain that idealy the drinking doesn't start until after the drinking parties have finished playing. For the most part that is the truth.

I don't want to go to much more into it. I could come up with some examples, but the goal of this journal is NOT to out people, just to make people aware. Safety first, and if you're not going to regard your own safety, make sure you're playing with someone who does.

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I am your servant. I shall not be free. You will protect me; you will keep me safe; you will guard me. You will keep me sound; you will protect me from every demon. -- Ancient Egyptian Woman's Slave Contract